Spiritual Bypassing: Using Your Triggers to Heal Yourself

The term “spiritual bypassing” came into my awareness a few years ago. I had begun to notice how many in the spiritual community would say one thing and do another, without conscious awareness they were doing it. So, as a friend, I would bring it to their attention, and most of the time, the relationship would be terminated. I struggled with this complexity, and examined my own role in this cycle of behavior. I was definitely in a judgmental space with it, and so, I chose one of the people who irritated me the most, and began to ask myself, “What is this person mirroring for me? Why am I attracting this energy?”. The results were interesting, as I observed my initial Egoic response, with strong resistance to me being “wrong”.

If you have been following my journey over these past few years, you have witnessed my greatest spiritual awakening. All who have been a part of my journey, have assisted me simply by reflecting back to me, my greatest shame, fear, and anger. You have also reflected back to me friendship, love, and purpose; and for all of this I am extremely grateful to you.

As I went down this “rabbit hole” of observant thought, I kept asking myself “WHY?”, as a response to any self limiting belief. Soon, I got to the bottom of the hole, and found the Core Picture; that energetic wound which has created the pattern in the present. I can then talk to my inner child, and update my timeline. In the days that followed, I started to notice that I wasn’t irritated AT ALL about things that would normally infuriate me. The neighbor’s dog is barking all day? Not an Issue. I get behind the slowest driver on a 2 lane highway? Totally at peace.

Next time you are triggered by something, or someone, ask yourself, “What is this person mirroring for me?” and step back from your Ego. Self healing is all about observing your thoughts and using the triggers as a lighthouse, guiding you to the wound that needs healing the most. I like to use golden suns and a grounding cord to sit with the energy in as neutral as a space as is possible. Sometimes I have to remind myself, “It’s not about them” more than once. The more you focus on your role, which is the only thing you can change, the better you will get at spotting it sooner, and eventually, you will be shifting out of the energy before you visibly react. It will become a habit to focus within when you are triggered, and thus: reversing the Victim role you have played in the past.

I love you!!!! Andrea